Common Negative Thought Patterns in Teens and How to Reframe Them: Obsessing Over the Negative
Don't sugar coat their relapseYou never want to tell your teen in recovery that relapse is okay. While it is true that relapse can be part of recovery, it is also true that relapse does not have to be part of recovery. Relapse is a choice that your teens made. You want them to take responsibility for making that decision, but not to the point of hurting themselves mentally. Tell them it is true they relapsed and it is true that relapse is a mistake, but that they can find recovery again, this time without relapse.
Help them see their accomplishmentsParents are quick to roll out a mile long scroll of everything wonderful their child has ever done since the moment they were conceived. Though a teen needs to hear about their accomplishments, a teen also has to learn to see their accomplishments for themselves. Otherwise, we set them up for a harmful pattern of relying on external validation. Ask your teen to take a moment and really think about some of the things they did right. Then, ask your teen about some of the choices they could have made which would have continued the path of relapse. Comparing the two, ask your teen if they can see how capable they are of good decision making, success, and accomplishment. Point out to your teen that everyone makes mistakes and everyone has the ability to rectify them.
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