4 Tips for Approaching Uncomfortable Conversations with Your Teen
Use Tools of MindfulnessMindfulness is a tool that your teen will be learning when they go to treatment. Rooted in spirituality, mindfulness is now considered a scientifically evidence-based practice, proven to reduce symptoms of stress and anxiety. Core to the practice of mindfulness are tools of noticing, paying attention, becoming aware, and doing all three non-judgmentally. Rather than judge yourself for your insecurities, try noticing instead what exactly your insecurities are about your ability to approach your teen. Pay attention to where you might feel the fear in your body, the racing of your heart, maybe the clenching of your muscles. As you become more aware of your reactions, take deep breaths to release the tension. Stress management through mindfulness will become a critical tool for your child’s recovery and their own stress management.
Connect to CompassionJust as you are experiencing this debilitating insecurity and fear now, your child is also struggling. Whatever they are going through psychologically, it is something happening within them, out of their current control. They have not yet learned what it is or how to cope with it effectively yet. In this practice, in this moment, you are experiencing healthy coping. You can find compassion for the fact that your child is struggling, unable to cope, and doing the best they can with what they have at this exact moment. Remove yourself from the equation and remember, your child’s mental health conditions aren’t personal offenses .
Break the barrierAfter a few more deep breaths and self-pep talk, focus all of your energy into love. At the end of the day, at the end of the conversation, everything you do for your child is out of a deep, passionate love for them. With that in mind, break the barrier of tension and approach your child with a loving energy and compassionate mindset, seeking understanding for their experience.
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