It’s Okay to Not Know
The Dangers of ComparisonSometimes finding your way can be difficult. Most people don’t wake up one morning and decide what they will do with the rest of their lives. It takes time, experience, and self-reflection to get to a place of choice. Comparing ourselves to others can cause this life task to become far more daunting and halt our progress because we get lost in someone else’s dreams. At times, these comparisons can make us feel defeated and emotionally shut down because when we turn away from our truth, things begin to hurt. It’s in this space that addiction looks for land and builds a home. From here, it can become a slippery slope. We alter our looks, our perspectives, our mindset, and our choices to fit the will of others. When we do this, we begin to lose ourselves. One day, we wake up and look in the mirror to find a stranger. It’s almost as if we are looking in one of those distorted fun-house mirrors, and the more we try to make ourselves look “normal”, the stranger things seem to appear. We can become depressed, anxious and use in those moments to fill the void of purpose and self. So, how are we supposed to start the process of knowing? It’s easier than you think. We don’t look to the world, to friends, or our families. This process starts with the self. It means taking a deep dive inside our minds to discover who we are and what we want. We don’t have to figure it all out by 18, but we do need to get the ball rolling.
Honest ConversationsFiguring out what we want takes time, but we can start the process by having an honest conversation with our heart. Ask yourself some of these questions, and see if they spark an internal conversation:
- What makes you happy?
- What brings you joy?
- What skills do you have?
- What can you see yourself doing in the future?
- What hobbies could I use to connect to my future?
- Which parts of myself am I afraid to show the world?
The Inner WorkIt’s okay to not know. It’s okay to take time. And it’s okay if your decisions about life are constantly changing but sitting in our rooms hiding won’t bring us any closer to finding our path. It may seem scary but taking the first step towards our internal truths can help us find the steps we need to take externally. And sometimes, it’s not about finding the path we want; it’s about realizing what we don’t want. Eventually, with some soul-searching, everyone, including you, will find their way. The only constant you need is believing in yourself, even if that feels impossible at times.
We don’t need to forge our path alone. That’s where Stonewater Adolescent Recovery Center can help. Using proven methods for addiction and individualized treatment plans, the staff at Stonewater can help create the path that’s right for you. If you or an adolescent you know is struggling to find their way through addiction, depression, and anxiety, reach out today: (662) 478-946